Quashing the Myths About Domestic Adoption

25 Feb

In the United States there are thousands of babies placed for adoption annually. The fees involved are not exorbitant, and exist only to cover costs such as legal consultation. Adoption agencies exist to help with the process.  For anyone wanting to create a family, adoption is the best alternative. When it comes to domestic adoptions, in the court of public opinion there are many stereotypes and misconceptions. In fact, they are surprisingly well established in society. For most people, this type of adoption is painted as:

•         Prospective adoptive parents have to wait five years or longer to adopt a baby born in the same country.
•         They have to pay out thousands of dollars.
•         They constantly live in fear that the mother will return to take the back the infant, or child.
•         Children that are adopted are riddled with identity and behavioral issues.
•         The bond between baby and adoptive families are not as strong as the birth family. However, domestic adoptions continue to be quite common in the United States.

Unrelenting Myths
Due to the movies and sensationalist news stories, domestic adoptions are depicted unfavorably. For example, adoptive parents are commonly asked how much their child cost. Others are often asked if they are fearful that the birth mother will try to take them back. Basically, these questions wouldn’t be asked, if the public had more knowledge of the subject.

Domestic_Adoptions_250220130836Myth: There aren’t any infants being placed for adoption in the United States.
Truth: According to the Alexandria National council for adoption, it is estimated that there are about 20,000 infants placed for adoption yearly in the U.S. This is more than the approximate 19,000 international adoptions.

Myth: Domestic adoptions involve endless wait times and exorbitant costs.
Truth: Typically the wait time is one to two years. As well, in domestic adoptions, fees are not as staggering as they are believed to be. They can range from $4,000.00 – $10,000.00 and incidentally, the fees involved in adoption are to pay for costs such as legal consultation and counseling – not buying a baby – which is illegal. Every aspect of domestic adoptions is regulated by state laws and reviewed by a judge.

Myth: The birth parent can return and take back babies involved in domestic adoptions.
Truth: Despite the highly-publicized cases of Baby Jessica and Baby Richard, that by the way, the father in both adoptions didn’t consent; less than 1% of domestic adoptions end up being contested in the courts.

Myth: Birthmothers are usually troubled teenagers.
Truth: According to adoption professionals, a large number of birth mothers are over 18. Some mothers, and young couples, are finding it difficult nowadays to raise their first child and they lack confidence in being able to handle two children. So they opt for domestic adoptions.

Myth: Birthmothers who place their babies up for domestic adoptions don’t care about them.
Truth: They love them very much. This is why they know that they are not ready to be a parent, and want to give their infants a good home.

Myth: The adopted child will grow up troubled in cases of domestic adoptions.
Truth: The most harmful myth about domestic adoptions is that children who are adopted will grow up to be unreasonably troubled emotionally, and developmentally. According to a study done by the Minneapolis based Search Institute “Growing up adopted,” it was discovered that adoptees are better adjusted than adolescents raised by their birth parent(s).
As well, the adoption study found that teenage adoptees are extremely attached to their adoptive parents.

Domestic adoptions are common in the United States. Adoption agencies exist solely to simplify the process, for the adoptive parents, birth parents and the infant being placed for adoption. Their main goal is to create families.

This article was written by Koralee Philips on behalf of AdoptHelp, a full service domestic adoption center specializing in both independent and collaborative adoptions. To know the pros and cons of adoption, visit

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