The decision to adopt a child is clearly one that must be made with careful consideration of all factors effecting how a family or individual would emotionally and fiscally support a child. There is also the additional decision of whether to adopt an infant that has not yet been born (pregnant adoption) or an older child. Choosing to adopt a child when the birthmother has not yet given birth carries with it both the excitement of raising a newborn baby and also certain risks.
Before deciding whether or not to opt for pregnant adoption, potential parents must first assess whether or not they are truly prepared for child rearing. The first step in deciding whether adoption is the right course of action is to decide what other avenues are available and if those might be preferable for ones situation (for example, artificial insemination with a sperm donor etc.). If other desired avenues are not available, then the mourning process must be undertaken before fully committing to the idea of adoption. The potential adoptive parents must then do the needed research into what the process of pregnant adoption entails and decide whether or not this often stressful and lengthy process is the desired course of action.
If pregnant adoption – where the child is yet unborn – is an option that an individual or couple is considering, then it is worth knowing that adoption of this sort can take longer than adopting an older child. However, before making this decision one should consider what age of adoptive child would be the best fit for their circumstances and home life. The adoption process will generally be quicker for those adoptive parents who are open to a wider age range of children than simply newborns, but if raising a child from infancy is something that has been decided upon as a necessary requirement, then this is the path one should pursue.
If parents decide that pregnant adoption is not the option for them, then there are other decisions to be made. First in importance is arming oneself with the knowledge of psychological or medical issues surrounding adopted children, in particular the potential stressor that foster care may have been. An older child will have a history and background that has to be dealt with in a respectful yet upfront manner; thankfully counseling and guidance is available to all adoptive parents. Another consideration is how much contact the adoptive parents wish to have with the birth parents; there are options for both an ‘open’ and a ‘closed’ adoption. In the first scenario the birth mother would be in contact with adoptive parents throughout the process and perhaps after the official adoption, whereas in the latter, neither party would make contact.
Needless to say with the process of pregnant adoption or adoption of an older child, there are many factors to take into consideration. Emotional and fiscal stability are of vital importance to the preparedness of adoptive parents and are a requirement that all reputable adoption agencies will enforce.
This article was written by Veda Palmiter, on behalf of AdoptHelp, a full service domestic adoption center specializing in both independent and collaborative adoptions. To know about child adoption, you may visit Wikipedia.